In an ideal world, dating would be straight-forward, and you’d take on the rest of your life with the one you love by your side. However, it’s 2017 and some people are as faithful as their options. With partners now just a swipe away, it’s easy to find yourself in the...
One of the most difficult things to sit with in therapy, and in relationships with friends and family, is to be with a person who wants to make changes, but can’t seem to do it. We all either know or have been this person at some point in our lives. This is someone...
One of the issues that we hear frequently in couples therapy, and also came up in our couples lunch last week, is that men lack emotion. The story goes that men simply feel less than women do, and aren’t as likely to become emotional. While the claim that men are...
The prevailing world view is that emotion and logic operate in separate spheres of the brain, and as such, we can separate the two. Now, however, there’s a solid body of research that contradicts this claim, and reflects what I believe many of us who deal in...
There’s an idea going around that if your marriage is strong enough, then it should be immune to certain vulnerabilities. For instance, if you’re attracted or drawn to someone other than your spouse, you should still be able to spend time with that person, and your...
Below, I discus some of life’s questions that regularly make an appearance in the therapy room. In my office, finding the answers to these questions can involve steady, patient exploration and thoughtfulness. But this is a blog post, so instead of a gentle...
