Looking for a quick fix? Sleep might be the answer

Whether you’re a parent struggling to keep up with your child’s demanding schedule or a busy couple who’s sleep patterns are out of sync, the statistics show that you are probably all sleep deprived.  As a culture we are chronically exhausted and overwhelmed but most of us don’t think naps are an option.

But as Karen Brody points out in her article, Memo to Moms: It’s Eat, Pray, Sleep, finding a way to give your body and mind the rest it needs is crucial to living a happier and healthier life.  I can’t agree more with much of what she says…

“Sleep is all we need. After my nap I remembered that: (A) I loved myself; (B) I wasn’t a Loser Mom; (C) my kids were terrific (even though Jacob always leaves his socks in the living room); and (D) my husband was a honey (not the evil guy who goes on two week international work trips).

I also remembered how much I loved going to a yoga nidra class when my kids were little. Yoga Nidra is an ancient form of yogic sleep where you lay on the floor and the teacher guides you into a meditative state. It’s that simple.”

 

If you want to know more about this magical yoga, read the rest of Karen’s article, check out Richard Miller’s book, Yoga Nidra: The Meditative Heart of Yoga, or better yet

Join me this Sunday, March 30, for an introductory workshop!

Together with Annette Kielkop of The Source Yoga in McLean, I’ll be co-hosting a special workshop in Gainesville on this very topic.  Come and learn you can get better sleep and feel more refreshed on a daily basis.

There’s still time to register and come find out for yourself the power of sleep to transform your daily life!YogaNidra-SelfLoveWorkshop1

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Had enough winter? Here’s how to create your own sunshine

Tuesday Topic

After a long and seemingly endless winter it’s time for some spring renewal!  So today’s Tuesday Topic is all about recovering from winter and embracing spring (even if it doesn’t feel like spring just yet!)

We live in a chronically exhausted, overstimulated world and with most of us facing winter weather well into March… it can be really hard to find the energy to focus on clearing the emotional cobwebs and rediscovering your sense of balance.  But it’s time to bounce back from these gray winter days and self-care is the best way to make that happen.

For me travel, time with the people I love, and music are my favorite ways to take care of myself.

Escaping my daily routine and having some fun with my family and friends always helps me get back to my usually sunny disposition.  And when I can’t get away… nothing beats a good summer time playlist to pick up my mood!  {spoiler alert- next week’s Tuesday Topic will be all about music… stay tuned!}

Now you tell me…

What’s your favorite way to bounce back from a long winter?

Not sure what to do for self-care?  Well you can join me on March 30 to learn a simple way of dealing with insomnia, stress, anxiety, and those lingering winter blahs.  There’s still time to join me and Annette Keilkopf, LMFT, owner of The Source Yoga, for our special iRest Yoga Nidra workshop in Gainesville, VA.
This easy to learn practice, uniquely unwinds the nervous system, creating a sense of relaxation and calm that you will carry with you throughout the day.  Come try it for yourself at our introductory workshop.

 

We welcome you to come and explore new ways to rest, relax, and rediscover the joy of loving yourself, even in the midst of chaos, stress… or another spring snowstorm.

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Not in the DC metro area but still interested in learning about Yoga Nidra?  Check out these free audio downloads to start your practice at home.

This is event is a collaboration between Group Therapy Associates, The Source Yoga of McLean, and Jazzercise Gainesville Center.

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5 Simple Strategies to Survive the Winter Blues

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Bi7xwDlIgAAB98w.jpgWinter can be a long and dreary season for many of us.  After the beauty of pristine snow and delicate icicles has slowly evolved into a slushy mess of grey and cold, winter stops being pretty and starts feeling endless.  Between the lack of sunlight, cold temperatures, and lack of social activity it easy to see how this season can take its toll on your mood.   So here are 5 simple ways to brighten your mood and get through these last few days of winter.

Create a springtime playlist.  Music can be a powerful mood lifter and an easy way to shift gears mentally no matter where you are or what you’re doing.  Whether you like iTunes, Spotify, Pandora, or keep it old school with CDs, set up a special playlist for yourself.  Choose songs that evoke a feeling of optimism, happiness, or summertime parties and listen to it whenever you’re feeling crabby or down.

Get some sunshine.  One of the reasons that a long winter can be so tough on us emotionally is the lack of sunlight.  It has a biological impact on our bodies that can show itself as depressed mood and lack of energy.  So whenever possible, sit by the window, bundle up and go for a walk, or just turn on some extra lamps at home.  If you are experiencing more significant symptoms you might want to consider investing in a light box or light bulbs specially designed to mimic the effects of natural sunlight.

Be social.  After the all the excitement of the holiday season has died down, most people aren’t too excited to get out and party.  The cold nights and need for layers and boots instead of cute dresses and sandals can deter many of us from venturing out to party with friends.  But socializing is a big part of what keeps us happy and emotionally healthy.  We need to connect and enjoy time with others so make a point to plan at least one social activity with friends or family each week.  The time together will more than make up for the hassle of getting out in the snow.

Make plans.  While learning to be present-focused is an important skill, there’s still value in having something to look forward to.  Planing for a summer vacation or spring time weekend adventure will help to pull you out of the winter doldrums.  When we set goals for ourselves it can bring new meaning to the daily tasks ahead of us.  Even something as simple as pulling out a favorite sundress or college t-shirt and planning to wear it as soon as the weather warms up can lift your mood and get you thinking about the joy of warmer weather.

Embrace the wonder of winter. Remember how you felt the first time you saw a snowflake or the prettiness of changing leaves?  Winter is a necessary time of rest for nature and for our spirits.  Even though it may take it’s toll on our mood, remember that without winter we would not have the renewal of spring or the wonder of summer.  Take a moment each day to be grateful for something related to winter.  You can be philosophical about it and focus on the gift of rest that it bestows on us, find the fun in it and be grateful for another chance to snowboard, or  keep it practical and just be glad to warm up your cold fingers with a hot latte.  Either way, reconnecting with the joy of winter will help you get through it’s challenges with a little more joy.

*please note that if you are experiencing significant sadness, hopelessness, or other depressive signs that impact your daily functioning, you should seek the support of a qualified therapist or physician  If you have been diagnosed with depression or SAD (seasonal affective disorder) these tips may be help but should not replace your current treatment plans without consulting your health provider*

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why you need to stop “keeping calm” and start freaking out… Erika Napoletano style

One of my biggest claims to fame is my even temperament.  I am unflappable in even the most chaotic and crazy-making situations.

 

At least that’s what most people think.

 

Except maybe my husband…

 

and my kids…

 

and probably my mother cause she’s known me the longest.

 

They know the truth and until now,  I would’ve have probably tried to lock them all in a closet before letting them spill the beans that I am in fact prone to freak outs and melt downs.

It turns out that I’m just like everyone else in life who experiences moments (or days, or weeks, or seemingly endless periods) of feeling stressed out, overworked, confused, unfocused, and overwhelmed.

 

Running a business, being a therapist, writing, coaching, parenting, marriage, taking care of our 3-legged dog {don’t ask}, trying to cook healthy meals… oh yeah and laundry {I can never keep up with laundry!!}

 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m thankful for everyone one of these things.  They are fantastic and joyful parts of my life {except maybe the laundry… we really aren’t friends.}but from time to time any of these things (or a combination of them) can create inner turmoil that I work like crazy to keep under wraps.  After all what would people think if I fell apart and let it show?!

 

But here’s a secret that so many of us {including un-flappable me} don’t remember often enough-
losing it, freaking out, having a total melt down is NOT failure.

 

In fact when we freak out the “right” way, it can be incredibly liberating and provide perspective on how to clarify our priorities and figure out what’s next.  But don’t take my word for it… check out this article from Erika Napoletano.  {I love her tip about creating a place that’s “scary safe”… so important!}

 

She is a business genius, bestselling author, TEDx talker, American Express columnist, and by all outward appearances wildly successful and put together.  Except for the mini-meltdown she had a few weeks ago…

on stage…
while giving a talk to 400+ people.

 

The great news is she discovered some rather important lessons and even better news- she shared them with all of us!

 

Read her article, What you could gain by losing your mind,  and then tell me about your freak outs and melt downs in the comments below.


Today’s post is an email that went out to our special Dig Deep & Get Unstuck email list.  This list is for people who feel stuck, stagnant, frustrated, and are ready to do the hard work of being vulnerable and having some honest self-reflection in order to get clear about what’s next in their lives.

 

It’s a place where I share resources, tools, and personal insights about what it really means to live authentically and bravely even when it’s scary {and let’s face it, that’s most of the time!}

 

If you’re interested in joining this list and getting access to special pricing on some of our unique coaching services, please click here.  {note- this list is totally separate from our blog subscribers and other email lists so even if you’re on one of those, you have to sign up if you want to get the Dig Deep content}

Aaarg, it’s back to school time already? | part 2 ~ the parent’s edition

Hispanic family eating breakfastA couple weeks ago I wrote a post all about helping your child get ready to go back to school.  Now that the time is finally here, I have a message just for you parents.  Especially the ones who tend to forget themselves in the process.  Kids going back to school means you go back to school too, at least with regard to the routine and helping with homework, oh, and possibly providing transportation.

 

Okay, let’s just agree that like it or not- you’re relegated to school as well.

 

So, there are things that you can do to transition from summertime to school time, some of which may sound familiar.

  1. Eat energy foods
  2. Ensure you get enough sleep
  3. Drink plenty of water
  4. Try to do some form of physical exercise.

By virtue of doing these four things your stress level can be greatly decreased.  Yes, I know life is busy but maybe you can entertain the idea of having some compassion for yourself.  I mean give yourself a break, if last year didn’t go so well maybe this year will.

 

And, allow at least the first two weeks of school to really begin to settle into the new routine.  Even if you “practiced” getting ready over the last few weeks of summer, the actual transition into the school year routine still takes some getting used to.  Get yourself mentally ready for the unpredictable- whether it’s going to be a phone call from a teacher or the nurse, or your young one magically having some kind of ache or pain on the first day.  This way, if nothing happens it’ll be a nice surprise but if something throws a wrench into your routine, it won’t be so unexpected.

 

And just like you did for the kids… plan a last hoorah for yourself.  It could be a spa day, massage, girls/guys night out or just a day to yourself to do nothing.  And in planning this last hoorah be sure it includes an opportunity to surround yourself with supportive people.  There’s nothing like being in the company of someone who cares about you and is willing to let you vent.

{can’t remember the last time you focused on you?  check out our upcoming More than a Mom class and let us help you rediscover yourself.  Our next class is September 16- click here to register now.}

 

The first day back to school can be daunting.  It is as much the first day back for the child as it is for the parent.  Get ready, ease yourself into it adopt the attitude that whatever’s going to happen will happen. Embrace the notion that your little ones are growing up and so are you.  This is yet another stepping stone in their lives.  Breathe and remember, the first day back to school only happens once a year!

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the real secret to getting the body you want {flashback friday}

It seems like the summer weather is finally here to stay in DC.  We are on our 3rd day  of 90+ weather and the humidity is back with a vengeance.  Aaaahh… summer in DC!  I decided this week that it was finally time for me to reorganize my closet and get those summer outfits back in rotation.

My favorite part of the process is always the unexpected discovery of some really cute dress or bathing suit that I forgot I owned.  Aside from the obvious joy of finding something great to wear in this heat, finding an old favorite always brings back the fun memories of the summer I last wore it- the parties, the family BBQs, even the clients I used to see all come back. It’s great to be nostalgic.

My closet isn’t the only thing that I’ve been working on.  As you may have noticed I have been doing some reorganizing on our website too.  And much like my closet, I came across some old favorites on the blog.

So as a salute to the joy of finding that favorite sundress that I totally forgot existed, we will be having Flashback Fridays on the blog all summer long.  Each Friday I will feature an oldie but goodie from the early days on our blog.  These are posts that still resonate with our clients and me too.

To kick things off we will start with a great post on the real secret to getting the body you really want… considering the number of bathing suits I just found I think this is a very good time to revisit the keys to a great body image and sustaining a healthy lifestyle. Read More…

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