Recently, my husband and I were riding together in the car, and got into a brief back and forth about using the GPS to find the way home. I should say up front that this is not unusual for us. Our friends and family have, by turns, teased us, joined in, or abruptly...
One of the issues that we hear frequently in couples therapy, and also came up in our couples lunch last week, is that men lack emotion. The story goes that men simply feel less than women do, and aren’t as likely to become emotional. While the claim that men are...
The prevailing world view is that emotion and logic operate in separate spheres of the brain, and as such, we can separate the two. Now, however, there’s a solid body of research that contradicts this claim, and reflects what I believe many of us who deal in...
There’s an idea going around that if your marriage is strong enough, then it should be immune to certain vulnerabilities. For instance, if you’re attracted or drawn to someone other than your spouse, you should still be able to spend time with that person, and your...
In the last newsletter, we talked about how whether a marriage survives depends on the willingness and desire of both people to continue to work on it. And with all this talk about working on marriage, inevitably some folks will ask, why bother? Marriage is a lot of...
When I was young, I thought marriages could be divided into two discrete categories—good and bad. Both of my parents had been divorced prior to meeting each other, and having seen first-hand their happy second marriage, and their contentious interactions with their...
