Why Get Married?

In the last newsletter, we talked about how whether a marriage survives depends on the willingness and desire of both people to continue to work on it. And with all this talk about working on marriage, inevitably some folks will ask, why bother?  Marriage is a lot of...

The ‘Good Marriage’ Myth

When I was young, I thought marriages could be divided into two discrete categories—good and bad.  Both of my parents had been divorced prior to meeting each other, and having seen first-hand their happy second marriage, and their contentious interactions with their...
What makes a good marriage?

What makes a good marriage?

In the last newsletter, I talked about how one of the commonly asked questions in couples therapy was whether partners should stay or get married.  Given that any relationship, healthy or otherwise, is going to have issues, sometimes it can be difficult to determine...
Life’s Questions Answered, the Quick and Dirty Way

Life’s Questions Answered, the Quick and Dirty Way

Below, I discus some of life’s questions that regularly make an appearance in the therapy room.  In my office, finding the answers to these questions can involve steady, patient exploration and thoughtfulness.  But this is a blog post, so instead of a gentle...