What I’d like to do is scare you…and then offer a bit of hope. The topic is not something I like to think about much myself, because it induces a sort of peering into the void fear, a philosophical vertigo that leaves me lightheaded. The core concept is obvious. But of course, when things are obvious, we stop looking at them, stop seeing them, sometimes to our detriment. Anyway, we’re going...
Failure has all the makings to be a four-letter word, if we disregard the number of letters. The act of failure is defined as “the condition or fact of not achieving the desired end or ends.” It is the one thing we all do everything in our power to avoid. I’m here to tell you failure is inevitable. You have failed before, and you will fail again. However, this is a difficult perspective to...
It probably comes as no surprise that I believe in marriage. I’m a marriage and family therapist so it kind of comes with the territory. I believe in the power of commitment and I believe that most marriages are worth the work it takes to stay together. It takes great courage to stay and ride through the storms with another person; and I see far too many couples throw in the towel when things...
A good role model is also not perfect; he or she is “genuinely human.” Those last two words I read in Students Helping Students, a required book reading for my Principles of Peer Leadership course, which is mandated for all new Resident Advisors at Virginia Tech. I loved that phrase so much I wrote it down on a piece of paper and taped it above my desk, so it’s always in sight. I am...
About Us Book an Appointment Request a Call Email Us More than at any point in its history, we demand a lot from the institution of marriage. As psychotherapist Esther Perel has pointed out, we ask our partner to “give us what an entire village used to provide: belonging…identity…continuity…transcendence…mystery and awe all in one.” With those demands, it’s a wonder that any marriage survives....
