There is no denying the powerful influence that dads have on their children’s lives.  No matter the kind of dad they are, fathers have immense impact on how we see the world and relate to others.  And I can’ think of a better time to encourage all those fathers out there that are trying their best to raise happy, healthy, loving adults.  Whether you are struggling to find your way or are sitting back with pride admiring the results of those years of parenting- we are Group Therapy Associates want to wish all of you a very Happy Father’s Day!

 

Check out an excerpt from this article on the invaluable role of fatherhood in the emotional development of kids…

As a therapist I know the statistics and research when it comes to the role fathers play in their children’s lives. Fathers nurture, comfort, connect, and discipline in ways that are often different than mothers. And while neither is inherently better than the other, there is no doubt that each offers benefits to their children’s emotional development. When I look at my own family I know that my children learn empathy and compassion from their interactions with me. Their dad is a lot less “warm & fuzzy” than I am, but in his straight-to-the-point approach, he has taught them how to be resilient and push themselves to excel in spite of obstacles. Don’t get me wrong, he’s not the strong, silent type but he isn’t going to coddle them either, and I have learned that there is immense value in having that balance in their life.

Kids need to have someone who will kiss their knees when they fall just as much as they need to have someone brush off the dirt and send them on their way with little more than a glance at their bruises. As mothers we are usually pretty well trained in the art of comforting and soothing our children’s wounds, both physical and emotional, but in order to grow into well-adjusted adults they also need to learn to roll with the punches sometimes, to accept that love and connection comes in a variety of forms and that they can thrive in the world without mom always holding their hand. That is usually where the dads step in. They encourage children to let some of life’s storms roll off their back rather than always look for a warm lap to curl up in until it’s over. And they play and love in ways that are often quite different than us moms.

For the full article, visit I Am Modern magazine online.